TSC: So heightism more often applies against the short than against the tall. But, as heightism is a social prejudice based on gender norms, it can apply to tall people as well. Here is an article by some random guy which purports to provide reasons for a premise which may be false. In other words, the author makes a value judgment through his blanket premise (that guys like short girls) which supports the statement that “human height SHOULD convey social privilege”. In this case, the social privilege applies to short women.
To be clear, it is not heightism for guys to prefer short girls or for them to require short girls exclusively. But it is heightism to assert that short women SHOULD be preferred because of their height.
TL:DR - A value judgment exists which says that short women SHOULD hold social privilege.
This question has been asked so many times in so many places but the exact answer is still unknown. Guys like short girls because they find them pretty and attractive. They don’t really know the exact reason of this attraction and unlike girls; they don’t sit and think about such questions hoping to find a final answer. However, here is a list of the probable reasons that may put an end to this question altogether:
Guys feel more powerful in the relationship
Our relationship choices are largely determined by our psychological needs. When a guy towers over his girlfriend, he automatically feels more powerful in the relationship. A guy usually looks at a relationship as a combination of love and constant power struggles so his height makes him feel like a triumphant winner.
Short women look like they need protection from the world
There is something about short women that encourages everyone to protect them. Short woman look so cute and adorable all the time and a guy who’s fond of her will want to keep her safe. Even though short women can be very feisty and defensive about themselves, their height makes them look vulnerable which attracts a guy even more.
It feels nice to hug them
A lot of guys love the feeling of hugging women who aren’t very tall. I have this friend who’s dating a wonderful woman who would be called short by general standard and he can’t stop talking about how amazing he feels when he hugs her and her head stops right below his chin. And he’s not the only guy who enjoys this experience.
Guys feel inferior to tall women
Tall woman are usually very confident but their confidence often has a lot of pride and arrogance mixed in it. Since most men have a huge ego (which they can never compromise on), tall women can make them feel inferior to them in no time so short women are definitely a safer bet when it comes to protecting their ego.
They don’t know how amazing they are
Tall woman know that they have it in them and they are aware of their options. However, some short women are unaware of their beauty and charm because they have always been very preoccupied with their height. Innocence and humility can be very attractive in a woman. When someone has both these, why will anyone care about how tall they are?
Sex is more enjoyable
Some guys find sex to be a more pleasurable activity with someone who’s shorter than them by a massive degree. Since short women weight less, some men find it easier to experiment with them.
They are easier to pick and move around
A great thing about short women is that you can pick them up with ease and take them wherever you want. They are like the little dolls a guy never had but always wished that he did. Whether you talk about a ride to the bedroom or snuggling up on the couch, short women can fit themselves anywhere which actually makes them even more adorable.
Short women look more proportionate
Short women tend to look well endowed which attracts every guys attention. A tall woman with a small chest and a well endowed butt may look disproportionate but a short woman with the same vital stats will not. Since the disproportion is less obvious in short women, they are usually more favored by guys.
They feel more secure in the relationship
Being with a short woman gives more security to a man. Men in general are very insecure even though they will never accept it so being with someone who is short makes them feel dominating and the fear of losing a girl does not come into play.
They can take them around like a trophy
Short girls are petite and very cute. They are like a guy’s arm candy (of course he loves her). Being in a relationship with someone who’s attractive, adorable and completely loyal to them will helps guys to win some brownie points with their friends.
Short women are more feminine
This is actually a fact. Short women have more estrogen content in their body which makes them much more feminine than tall women who have more testosterone. I am not saying that tall women aren’t feminine but short women have a higher degree of sensitivity which really attracts men.
That’s the stereotypical norm
A very obvious reason for guys to like short women is the traditional societal norm. Most of the guys have always dated women shorter than them so the degree of the difference didn’t really matter.
As long as a guy likes a girl, their difference in height doesn’t really make that much of a difference.
Note: For those that don’t know, “idiopathic short stature” mean genetic short stature. Short stature that is not caused by a medical problem. It is an attempt to make short stature itself a medical disease.
To facilitate decisions on interventions in medically referred children with idiopathic short stature, the research on psychosocial functioning of these children, possible risk and protective factors influencing adaptation, and effects of hormone treatment were reviewed. Parents ranked the behaviour of their children on average between normal and below normal. The magnitude of these deviations varied from small to large. Little is known about the children’s self-perceived psychosocial functioning. Some risk factors were found: being teased, being juvenilised, being a boy, having a younger but taller sibling, low intelligence, and low socioeconomic status. There have been few studies on the impact of protective factors including temperament, coping strategies, and social support. On average, hormone treatment did not improve psychosocial functioning. The research shows the advantages and disadvantages of hormone treatment that must be considered when choosing a suitable intervention. It is suggested that psychosocial adjustment can be improved by focusing on factors other than height alone.
TSC: We didn’t need a study to tell us that. I would actually think that it would worsen the psychosocial functioning of short kids. This is because he/she is being “treated” for something that is not a problem. You are confirming his/her insecurities and feelings of inferiority by giving him/her growth hormone.
But I’m going to read this whole study when I get a chance. Sounds interesting, but the last line makes me suspicious (“other than height alone”).
TSC: Another person trying to make an easy buck off of heightism. The effort and money that goes into hiring a consultant who advises short men (what exactly are you paying him for again?) would be better spent challenging heightism directly.
Beware of anything or anyone saying that you can avoid heightism through a change in your behavior or mindset. Heightism is an external social ill and it can only be combated directly.
You know what’s really weird about some of these tweets? A lot of them (most of them?) are completely unsolicited. They seem to come completely out of the blue. When you click on one of the profiles to see their entire twitter feed, you’ll notice that there is nothing leading up to the statement. It’s like they’re walking down the street and decide to tweet “I Hate Short Men”.
Is this normal? I don’t actually use Twitter and so maybe I’m missing something. Do guys randomly text things like “thin chicks > fat chicks”?
I think this lends credence to my theory that much of this is a sad attempt at proving one’s femininity to one’s peers. Otherwise, it makes no sense. Why do they think that anyone cares about their personal dating preferences? There is something else going on here. I think it increases their social status to claim that they hate short men and would never touch one with a ten foot poll. It’s very interesting. I assume that many of these same women would not date men who have big noses (for an example), but we don’t see a ton of random tweets saying “sharp nosed men > big nosed men” or “‘I’ll be damned if I ever date a man with a big nose!”.
I think this speaks to the widespread acceptance of heightism. Short men are perceived as less masculine and so these girls (#notwomen) can increase their social standing by slandering us. This works because it allows them to safely broadcast their supposed desirability by implying that they are so hyper-feminine that they would not be associated with anything other than men who are also perceived as very masculine.
It’s an insecurity play. I also think that its probably targeted at other females and not guys. I don’t see any advantage these ladies would gain with men by slandering short men. At the very least, other guys would consider it neutral. But other guys (even some taller guys) might perceive such a statement as shallow.